Responsibility — The Error
An effective tool misconceived by teens.
It’s time to evaluate yourself and your maturity on one of the most misconceived topics.
I had recently come across a very arguing topic Responsibility with a friend of mine. As we already know this is one of the very common arguments among the friends of opposite gender and the girls have this very powerful weapon “ Hey, I’m a girl and my responsibility of being a girl is a lot tougher than you bhaiya. And without second thought pack of questions arouse.
What’s the matter if you are a girl or boy.? Responsibility is the same no? And don’t we boys have love for our parents and family.? Are we just the flesh mountain of absolute rouge and a selfish giant?
Let me give an example before diving into the real waters.
There was once a teen boy who is very attached to his mother and he considers her as the god. He works extremely hard to make her happy and to take care of her. Yeah like Saravana in Ramayana. Of a sudden her mom got sick and this boy have no specific idea of what happened and he badly wants to cure his mom. So he asked his grandfather at first “ How to cure her Ayya.? “And his grandfather told it’s all a Divine Stab (Deiva Kuththam) and he suggested him to pour 108 pots of water to Pillaiyar statue. The boy did that, but his mom didn’t recover. Now he asked his friend for the suggestion and the friend said It’s all about the Vasthu of his house and he suggested this boy change the pathway of his house towards the south. This time also his mom didn’t recover. Now he sought suggestion from his neighbor and the neighbor told it’s all the Karma of their elder generation and you need to offer your house for this temple to fix your mother’s condition. And this boy had also done that. This time also there’s no improvement in his mom’s health.
The ones who suggested all these started gossiping and finally, the people concluded “ His mom’s sin is incurable and they set aside their family from the village. Finally, this boy approached a sage and he gave him some herbs and advised him to give her daily. Little by little her mother recovered and finally, she’s perfectly alright. This boy grew so happy and informed all the villagers that she is alright. Now the gossiped villagers show their faces one by one saying “ Your offerings are accepted by God, Yeah my astrology never failed, your sins are forgiven. Now the entire village is happy and creates an illusion “ Her mom cured because their intelligent idea worked.
Yeah seriously trust me the society is awkward. You can’t really satisfy society whatever you do. So the truth is “ It’s not about the gender, it’s not about the love, it’s not about the attitude.
It’s the Misperception.
You are a girl. So you are limited to live your own life. You don’t have the rights to wear what you want. You don’t have the rights to go wherever you want. You must not choose your career. You must not love someone who is not of your caste & your family. You must not select your own life partner which you are going to spend the rest of your own life with. What is this.? Okay, you are a girl, So what.? Are you the slave of this society.? Yeah, I know your response is like “I don’t care about society. It’s all for my parents. They brought me this much a big girl. They sacrificed a hell lot for me. My parents will never lead me in the wrong way. Everything sounds okay girl. Then who taught your parents to use the technology.? It’s you right. Still, they are looking at you as a Techie and ask your help for their doubts. So the update happened because you take the first step and you lead your parents towards intelligence. I’m sure of one thing, “ No parents want their children to got hurt and sad for the entire life.”
And yeah if you say, we are Indians and my parents’ pride is in my caste and religion. So I must look into what society thinks. Seriously society is the number one chameleon. If your selection is best and the society will change like “The Great decision is this man.” But all it takes is time and perseverance. You must show society, you must prove it.
Ask this question yourself If you are hungry do you eat or if society ate and your hunger will vanish .?
Take the step. Make your parents understand. Give them the confidence. Show you are matured enough to decide. And when the time comes prove them. Your life is your proof. Yeah, seriously this path is not easy and can’t be reached at once. You need to oppose them, you need to be adamant. You need to be clear. You need to be strong. Then only you are able to make them understand.
Think of the gift, think of the fruit you are going to taste. Yes, we are in India, the same India which fight for its own independence for 90 years. So get off from your seat and fight. Himsa or Ahimsa.! Gandhiji or Nethaji.! It’s your choice. But the independence is guaranteed.
Conclusion :
Great things never come from comfort zones.
