Perspective — The flaws
The flaws and the misunderstanding
Innovation begins with a shift in perspective — Brian Solis
Hey guys. This read is not about innovation or creativity. This is all about the flaws which are present in the understanding of the word “Perspective”. Let’s dive into the topic.
We’ve been looking in the wrong places for meaning and happiness. I think it’s a universal flaw of adulthood. We keep looking ahead of answers when maybe we should be looking backward.
Maturity, education, and experience propel us forward. We work, achieve, marry, buy homes, have kids, follow the rules and yet, struggle to find happiness and meaning in our lives.
For many people, happiness is elusive. They’re suffering from stress, depression, and anxiety. Often, they turn to themselves, friends, family, and the close ones for guidance and answers. But lemme ask you frankly if you not even understand then how they are supposed to be? So what’s wrong here.? Is this all about you or your situation or your knowledge.?
Nope... Never. It’s all about perspective. The perspective that we see things. So if your mind voice is “ Arun, then what you want from me .? How I should see things.?” Yeah. I’m hearing it. ;)
The problem is that there are a lot of things that make people feel worse. Let me list the things in which your problem is listed. And all the things got interconnected which impacts the satisfaction.
Relationship
Relationships— as the name depicts are a relation which is between you and someone — Girlfriend, boyfriend, besties, wife, father, mother, or even a stranger. Yes, the stranger is also a relationship which means there’s no relation between you and them, as the number Zero in the decimal number system.
Sometimes you think that people around you do not even understand you, your work, your situation, your emotions, your feelings, and your work pressure. And yeah definitely if they even tried to play with you, you immediately grew on them with fire like, “Ungalukku naan thaan kidachena.? with additional phrases or words” And sometimes you take some serious decisions on it like. “It won't work between us. You never understand my feelings.”, if the case is your boy/girlfriend. Because we all have this general mindset that “ We can break up in love at any time for anything and anytime.” So is this the same if it's someone like your mother, father, sister or brother.? Do you treat them the same way that I don’t need them because they don't understand me.?
How to shift towards the correct perspective:
Your mind says they hurt me because they don’t understand me or my feelings. Do you aware that you are also doing it back without understanding them.? So what’s the difference between you and them. Whoever it may be, what they sought from you is “ Your time”. And you can’t give it saying I’m having work 24/7. Then ask yourself, “ Is it true.? You not even brushed.? You haven’t eaten.? You haven’t checked your Whatsapp.?” So change the perspective that they don’t understand me. Make them understand that this is not the correct time. Stop saying “I don’t have time”. They surely understand if you say it in the language that they understand. Ah yeah, language matters. I’ll write a detailed read on the topic “Language” soon.
Career
Career — Many proletariats out here are really worried about what they are doing. BTW proletariat means the modern wage-laborers who, having no production of their own and working within a dependent zone. Does blaming the authorities for making you work overtime or reduced wage or not giving leave bring you the change? Now your mind voice is like, “I am not supposed to work more than 8 hours. I’m not supposed to work on weekends and the list goes on.” Ask yourself this question, “Did you own the company or you have the authority to change the regulations of the company.? Your work matters to you and you’re working. You don’t need to develop a relationship with the company. If I didn’t finish this then my manager will lose this much money or that much money, If I quit this job then my team really suffers. How I supposed to handle this.? There’s a lot of pressure here.” The pressure is there on every job, day to day from the auto driver Mani to Ambani or Ratan Tata. It’s inevitable. So be mature to handle the stress, work out on your work-life balance.
How to shift towards the correct perspective:
Very easy guys. Just stay calm. Tie up all the stress, burden, targets, milestones, and all when you leave the company and put it aside under your desk when you walk out. If it's the case of work from home shut down all the emotions, stresses when you shut down your system. Don’t get addicted to the feelings and emotions of a nonliving creature. The work won’t automatically be completed if you worry about it. The manager won’t give you a month of paid leave that you had worked this much. So be selfish guys. Spend the rest of your time developing your attitude, your knowledge, your skills. Invest time in you. Invest time for your loved ones. Invest time for your life. If not this project, there’s always another project for you to show off. But your time, your age, the time to love for your loved ones. Does it wait for you.? The teenage, this youth life, don’t waste it for making your company’s owner rich and happy. Put a smile on your face and make people around you happy. It’s just the commitment. If you didn't then there are thousands who are there to fill your place or fulfill your owner or the manager’s dreams. But your boyfriend doesn’t have an alternate girlfriend, your mom doesn’t have an alternate child. Be very clear I’m talking about the alternatives. Yeah, maybe your boyfriend will get another girlfriend if it's not you. Your parents have your siblings. But is it the same as a career, ‘ The salary of you, when you are a fresher, is same for the one who’s filling your place.?’. Shift your perspective towards how to balance, how to face rather than worrying about it. Make memories. Be the reason for a miracle. Be someone’s magical special.
The Solution
PARTY HARD GUYS. Age and time never wait for anyone. It not even waited for Lord shiva, Krishna, or Vivekananda. Till now Gods and saints not even win time, then how you suppose to think that this will wait for me.? Are you the thing apart from Science .? Do you belong to another Universe.?
See things clearly. Clear the blur in your specs and have a clear vision. The perspective matters. Change your question from “ Why me” to “ Why not me.? Why not today.? ” Think from the other person’s perspective too. Have the focus. Manage your time. Stop worrying about how you are. Be happy about how you are better than yesterday. Be happy for making something. Be thankful for the life that it gives you this much.
